sad people with surface level thinking by Arthur Lugauskas

it’s a bit sad. some people have a sad life.

whether it be them having been burnt too many times in the past in which they’ve decided caused them to have trust issues with every single future person. whether it be them being in an unhappy relationship or marriage in which they choose to not get out of due to not wanting to lose money, but which then caused them to look and find someone else that would satisfy them, even if it were only a fantasy that costed money (ironic?). these people think it’s okay to cheat, but not be cheated on, which doesn’t really make sense. these people move forward with the thinking that they are never wrong and that they should never apologize. as if being wrong or apologizing would show weakness, but staying in an unhealthy miserable relationship somehow shows strength. really!?

these people are also so selfish, so inconsiderate to what others feel and go through, instead they think they are the victim in every scenario, but they never show it, they just secretly decide it, they think the world is out to get them and their money, that everyone is not doing good enough, that they are working harder than everyone else, and that they are someone who they are not. so they pretend and act like they are on the same team as others, they act like they want to share the wealth, give back, but only give back a little if the highest expectations are met, no exceptions.

these people don’t care about depth, details, nuances, and truth. they just see what is on the surface. they only care about what is on the surface. not what is right or wrong. not for an explanation. they don’t want to hear it. they don’t want to acknowledge that maybe they said something wrong, or unjust. they don’t care about the story, the reasons, nor for others to improve and get better. they don’t want to actually help. they don’t want to give back. they don’t treat a new person as a clean slate. they’d rather think that everyone is out to get them, no one can be trusted, and that everyone is the same - disposable.

it’s sad, because some of these people have a lot of money, and potential to help the world in a good way. they have a certain power and reach that can make positive impact and change. but they don’t want that. nor do they know what they can actually achieve. because they are actually very poor in the mind. they don’t have depth. they just react, without thinking. they don’t care of others’ feelings. they think, “me, me, me.” and the bigger problem is that they don’t think they are the problem. they think others are a problem and no one is right, but themselves. these people are really poor culturally. and that’s sad.

and they don’t want help from anyone. they don’t want to talk to you. they don’t want advice. because anything you say is wrong if they don’t already think that. if you say something new, or open up a door to a new perspective which they may not have seen, they think you’re wrong, you should not have done that, and you’re stupid for not looking at what’s on the surface. when you try to take them in and expose truths and depths of something that was done wrong, or better yet something that they said wrong, they don’t want to hear it. they think you’re wrong for even thinking about going beyond the surface fo what happened and what they saw. they already decided that what happened happened, and it’s your fault! why don’t you get that!? don’t be dumb and defend yourself, are you kidding me!? that’s what they think. they want others to be weak and dumber than them and they want to control others. and another sad thing is that many people can be controlled, many people are very weak, get taken advantage of, and allow themselves to continue to get taken advantage of. and once one person allows themselves to be vulnerable, weak, and controlled, these sad people like that and want everyone else to be like that, but then they have the nerve to also have high expectations of them somehow. how can you have high expectations of low quality people!? it just doesn’t make sense. but these sad people don’t think that way, instead they think what they think is right and act like that’s normal, to expect so highly of someone of low quality. and when the low quality person doesn’t meet expectations these sad people act like it’s the low quality persons fault instead of understanding that the two things don’t go together, are basically opposites of one another, and is ridiculous to even expect.

but what happens when these sad people encounter someone who they can’t control and who is smarter than them? oh, they don’t like that at all. they decide to hate the person for being good, smart, intelligent, and one who has his/her own opinion. it’s so crazy! they don’t even like to hear others defend that person, reaffirming that person’s value. it’s so counterproductive. don’t you want to know and be with people smarter than you, whom can give you a real opinion, not a roboticly fearful response?

these sad people don’t realize it, nor would want to acknowledge it, but they look sad when they are wrong, but don’t think they are wrong, yet keep fighting after someone else showed them blatantly that they are actually wrong, with evidence. it’s like they are scarred to look into a mirror and see that they were wrong and seek for improvement. they prefer thinking that everyone else is wrong, negative, out to get them, which i guess is an easier thought, like being the victim is easy, like being right is easy, and they feel so alone in this world full of sharks that are after what they have, which are surface level items that actually don’t matter, nor bring real happiness. hence why they stay in this cycle of sadness.

also, sadly, these sad people with surface level thinking like others to be a punching bag and to be at fault. like, they actually like that, and feed off that. it brings them their missing happiness somehow, hurting others, blaming others. because it sure feels good to blame someone, doesn’t it? and it sure feels good to be a bully when you think you have more power than someone else, doesn’t it? how sad is that?

if you’re dealing with sad people like this, don’t worry, you’re not alone, see through the nonsense, have a laugh inside, maybe even outside, maybe out loud, enjoy the show, don’t let it get to you, be you, uncontrolled, free, real. no need to be afraid to be wrong, being wrong is part of growth, of trying. failing is part of growing. you’re stronger after you fail and get back up. you’re smarter too! you don’t know it all and this world is invented. be kind, respectful, and don’t let the sad people bring you down. also note, it’s okay to be sad in the sense of being sad, whether you went through a breakup, didn’t achieve something you worked really hard for, et cetera. the thing is, don’t be a jerk to everyone around you and think the world is against you because some things didn’t work out for you. every new person you meet deserves to be a clean slate, and you can judge them through what they have done or haven’t done to you. no need for preconceived nonsense, lies, and hate from others, especially sad people.

be awesome, be amazing, and don’t let nonsense take you down, because it exists, even though it’s hard to understand why some people are so sad and wrong and think it’s okay to treat others like garbage, like, brah, really!? why? chill.